1. Get real on the budget
Let’s face it. We would all love to have four foot-tall centerpieces, awesome entertainment, a five-course dinner and a luxury vehicle to ride away in. The reality is that you may not have enough in your budget to have everything you want.
So, how do you figure out what to do about the budget?
It all starts with an honest conversation with your families as soon as possible after the engagement to find out what amount, if any, they are willing to contribute to the wedding.
Then, make a list of all your wishes for your wedding day in order of importance. Keep in mind that you most likely won’t get everything on your list. The items listed last may have to be cut if the budget doesn’t support them, and that is OK.
2. Enlist HELP!
Get help from friends, family members or a wedding planner. Planning a wedding can be fun, but it is also a lot of work. It takes an average of 400 hours to plan a wedding, and with today’s hectic lifestyles, you may not have time to do everything by yourselves. Many people may be delighted to help you find a DJ, attend to the guestbook or help you assemble favors.
Professional help such as a wedding planner will save you time, money and frustration and are more affordable than you may think.
One of our favorite wedding planners is Jean from After The Proposal.
3. Define your vision
It is easy to get overwhelmed with all the ideas you can find on the Internet and at bridal shows. There are a lot of ideas out there.
So, as to not get derailed and risk having your wedding not look cohesive, sit down and discuss your vision for your day early.
Do you like sparkle? Are you a romantic at heart? Do you love nature? Your day should reflect your interests, personality and style. Don’t worry about what it trendy or hot right now. Write down what you would like your day to look like, and as you are planning or when you see a cool idea on Pinterest, refer back to your vision and ask yourself if this idea fits in.
4. Learn the art of compromise
There will be literally hundreds of decisions you will have to make during the wedding planning process. With that many decisions, there are bound to be some disagreements.
These are the first tests of your life together on how well you can compromise.
He may get to choose his tux color, and in exchange you get to choose the flowers. He wants steak. You want shrimp. You compromise and serve chicken, which you both like.
Try to find the middle ground that will make you both happy.
5. You can’t make everyone happy
Wedding planning can be a time of joy, but sometimes trying to make everyone happy can cause a lot of stress. It seems everyone has come out of the woodwork to tell you their opinions on what you should do on your day.
If you don’t like their ideas or suggestions, tactfully explain that you and your fiancé would like to do this on your own. Be firm, but polite. This is your day – not theirs. They had or will have their own turn on their wedding day to make their own decisions.
6. Don’t sweat the small stuff
During everyone’s planning process, things will inevitably change. Don’t panic! It won’t be the end of the world if your envelopes came in white instead of ivory.
See if the problem can be fixed or changed, and if not, it will probably be OK. No one will notice, and if you have a real emergency, call me!
7. Don’t drag your fiancé around
They may want to be involved or not at all. Don’t feel like you have to drag them to every appointment. They may only want to attend meetings on things they like, such as the food and cake tastings or the DJ meetings.
That is OK.
For the appointments they may not want to go to, ask someone else such as your mother, sister, aunt or even your future mother-in-law. Chances are someone else would be honored that you asked them to be involved.
Make sure during this busy time to relax and enjoy yourself. Read a book by an author you like, see a funny movie with a friend or get a facial. Remember you are working hard and deserve to treat yourself every now and then.
9. Schedule non-wedding related time with your fiancé
Every now and then, you both will need a break. Make time to do something relaxing with your fiancé such as a couple’s massage. Have a date night where you both promise not to talk about the wedding for an entire night!
10. Take time to smell the roses
Remember why you are doing all this planning in the first place. It’s not to have the best wedding you have ever seen and that all your friends will be envious of. It’s to start your married lives together with a beautiful day that is a reflection of your love.
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